Learning How to FLY (First Love Yourself)
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A Special Passage for Lisa
“I am worthy. You were born worthy. You don’t have to do anything to make yourself worthy. You are a superhero born into this world and being you is all you need to do. Express yourself and don’t believe the hype that says you need to be anything more than your amazing self. I used to believe I wasn’t deserving of great things but when I began declaring my worth my life changed for the better.” – from the soon to be best-seller I AM…: A Girl’s Guide to Harnessing SuperPowers
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The “I AM” Initiative
Even though we live in the same area, the universe wanted Lisa Van Ahn and I to meet in Florida. We both have made it our mission to propagate the “I AM” habits. As a listener of my podcast, you are aware of how I broadcast the message. Lisa chooses to spread the message by empowering 3rd to 8th grade girls with superpowers and the 3 rules of self-defense. She teaches them that the right action is the action you take when you love yourself, you trust who you are, and you trust what you feel.
Lisa often encounters young girls who are bombarded with “this is who you are” and “this is who you need to be” directives. In her workshops and retreats, girls discover they can freely say “No. I know who I am.”
The common thread that is woven through Lisa’s past life is one of feeling unworthy. She succumbed to playing the part of the victim until a final “push” made her reconsider her part in her own life. She says “Your path and your journey begin with what you believe about yourself and that moves into creating your experiences. I truly do believe anything is possible. If you set yourself on the course you want to be on you will get there with the consistent behaviors of self-love, self-care, self-responsibility, and self-compassion. When you bring these things into your life anything is possible.” Lisa loves sharing these experiences because it gives her bright light a chance to shine.
“The truth is, in order to heal, we all need to tell our stories and have them witnessed.” from The Dance of the Dissident Daughter – Sue Monk Kidd
Lisa knew she needed to pay forward the kindness she received from the two owners of the kickboxing studio she went to every day after she started living her life with love, forgiveness and gratitude. She made the decision to share, with young girls, the encouragement she so desperately needed when she was young and couldn’t calculate her own value.
So, Lisa is Perfect Now, Right?
Even though she adds practices to her life in order to reach a state of mindfulness, Lisa admits she has much farther to go. It’s not like you make one decision and everything is instantly easy. A tendency towards self-sabotage is a fierce dragon which is hard to slay. The ego lives and so do collective expectations of success. Lisa says that when a self-defeating thought takes over, she thinks about things that she loves, things that need to be forgiven and things she is grateful for, so it becomes easier to cope with the trap of “I’ll love myself when”.
The Shadow Dance
There is light and dark in all of us. The dark will come and there is no avoiding it. Accepting yourself exactly as you are allows you to release the craving for what you desire. It is the craving of making something last which creates suffering. If you release your desire before the thing you want arrives, you are given the joy of having. No one thing is easy or hard for people to release. It’s based on the individual and for Lisa, it’s her business. She says “it’s a crunchy I can’t get rid of.”
Her advice to those of us stuck in our cravings, whether it is to be in a relationship or to find forgiveness for those who may have hurt us is to take a deep breath and then go out and do something today that is going to feel good. It will bring completeness, wholeness, and happiness.
Learn How to Get SuperPowers of Your Own
To stay in touch with Lisa and get weekly updates about her new book, her “I AM” initiative and her confidence coaching, enlist at Lisavanahn.com. Her new book I AM…: A Girl’s Guide to Harnessing SuperPowers and accompanying cards will be available very, very soon.
You are Not the Only One and You Are Not Crazy Either
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Reminder – We are planning a big event for September! The new Straight Talk for a Curvy World Live – An Affair with Joy. We will be working on self-love and loving our business from the inside out. There will be a private VIP dinner to celebrate my 50th birthday and the release of my new book. Everybody who attends will go home with a copy. Special early bird pricing is available, so sign up now!
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